Then I met Stephanie Modell.
She is a seasoned sleep expert and actually taught me that the more complicated you make the bedtime routine, the more distractions there are to keep the baby awake. But there are a few sleep aids she does recommend, and when Stephanie says something will work, I always click “buy”! Which means I have her new book, The Baby Sleep Guide—out in March—on pre-order, naturally.
Check it out, and keep reading to find out Stephanie’s best tips for how to make your baby sleep through the night. They definitely worked for me.
1. Aden + Anais Classic Swaddles
Swaddles can be a real godsend in the early weeks when a baby’s flailing hands can really startle them. We had a whole bunch and used them until our daughter was about two-and-a-half months old.
Stephanie: “Swaddling can give babies a feeling of security as it mirrors the sensation of the womb and may help ‘trigger’ sleep in the first few weeks. The Aden + Anais Classic Swaddles (from £17.95—pictured above) are made from a breathable cotton muslin to reduce the risk of overheating and are a generous size, allowing baby to be swaddled safely with their legs able to move into a natural frog-like position.”
2. Angelcare AC1120 Digital Video and Sound Baby Monitor
We inherited an old-school baby monitor that emitted a loud “CRSSSSSSSSS” noise at all times and then conked out at random. When we bought the Angelcare Baby Monitor (£113) it was like a revelation—it only activates when there is a sound from your baby, and then is as clear as a bell. I wish we’d had the video function now.
Stephanie: “As a sleep consultant I think videos are a great aid to parents. Babies can be quite noisy and move around a lot while connecting their sleep cycles or self-settling. Being able to observe their baby allows parents to assess whether intervention is needed, so I think this is a good investment, and rather than making you overattentive I think it gives you the confidence to pause and give your baby an opportunity to snuggle back down.”
3. Sleepytot Bunny
We didn’t use a soother, but I know a real problem amongst my friends who did was running in and out to pop it back into their baby’s mouth—man, that is a lot of running, especially when you consider a lot of people use dummies to aid safe sleep, following the research suggesting it might prevent Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. This Sleepytot Bunny (£9.99) makes it easier for the child to grab it back themselves.
Stephanie: “The Sleepytot Bunny has Velcro hands to hold on to baby’s dummy, AKA soother. If you are constantly getting up in the night to find your baby’s lost dummy, then this could be the answer. It is designed to be easily found by a baby in the night when he might not have the dexterity to find a small dummy in his cot. Plus, your child is likely to form a comforting attachment to his bunny, so when it is time to ditch those dummies he will still have his bunny for comfort.” TOP TIP: Buy two—losing one could disrupt sleep for weeks! Also, wash it regularly so that a “comforting smell,” which will inevitably wear off, doesn’t develop.
4. Bednest Crib
A Bednest (£299) is a brilliant solution for those who would like to co-sleep but are afraid of baby rolling into you or off the bed. They are available to buy from John Lewis, but you can also rent them from the Bednest website. It’s essentially a crib that attaches to your own bed so you can be near to your baby, within reach for a quick feed or pat on the back. It might make the transition from co-sleeping to your baby sleeping alone easier too, as it includes a little divider to keep the cot separate from your bed if you so choose.
Stephanie: “The Bednest is the perfect compromise between co-sleeping and independent sleeping. I always advise parents who are co-sleeping to teach a little sleep independence too, so as their baby grows up he is able to sleep in the Bednest for his naps, rather than being dependent on sleeping in the arms of his mother.”
5. Baby Connect App
The foundation to forming good sleep habits has to be understanding how a baby’s sleep pattern works, and the Baby Connect App (£2.99) is a huge help. It helps track your baby’s rhythms, which in turn will help you get into a smooth routine, and before you know it your baby will be peacefully moving from one sleep cycle to another. Genius.
Stephanie: “Babies love routine, but a rigid book-based schedule cannot work for every mother and baby, so I encourage parents to learn about their babies’ natural rhythms by keeping a sleep and feed diary. The convenience of clicking on an icon is often preferable to finding a pen and paper.”
For information on safe sleep guidelines, visit www.lullabytrust.org.uk
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