Using a Sperm Donor: Should I Go That Route?


I am an avid MTV viewer. At the start of my addiction, "The Real World" was my drug of choice. From the hookups to the partying to a few pregnancy scares, I just couldn't turn away. 

Now, the network has me hooked on "Generation Cryo." In this docu-series, a 17-year-old girl from Reno, Nevada is looking to connect with 15 half-siblings. Breeanna also hopes to meet her father. 

How can a man father 16 children? He was a sperm donor. 

In each episode, we meet Breeanna's siblings and their family. We learn why the parent(s) decided to use a sperm donor to conceive. Many of the married men are infertile and their wives wanted children. Then there are the single moms who had it all — a successful career, a home, friends and family — but they didn't have a partner and wanted children. So they went to a sperm bank. 

This got me thinking: As a single woman, would I use a sperm donor? 

It wouldn't be easy. I'd have to have the financial means to do it all on my own. I'd have to have the emotional and mental strength to be a mother and a father. I'd have to look my children in the eyes and tell them that their father came in a vile. But I would do it. If my gynecologist told me that I had limited time to have children, that my egg count was plummeting as my legs were in stirrups, I would use a sperm donor.

I can't imagine a life without children. I wouldn't be fulfilled if I weren't a mother. If I were single with no prospects in sight, I would do whatever I needed to do to be a mom. Because motherhood is my choice. 

If you were single and wanted children (or you had an infertile partner), would you use a sperm donor?