I wish he would at least ask, "How did it go last night?"
I am married to a man who has ADHD. I have three sons who also have ADHD. It's bloody exhausting.
The next time he whines, I’m going to suggest that he take care of the kids by himself for a bit.
To avoid family conflict we agreed to let my in-laws (and others) stay with us, and it was a nightmare.
She values being thin over everything else. That’s her own dysfunction and she has no right putting it onto my children.